Over the last 6-7 years of dating I've met and/or dated a number of women. All of the women I've ever dated or for that matter ever known, have said just about the same thing.
They all say "I'm looking for a guy that is sweet and honest and loyal. A guy that treats me with respect and love. I'm just looking for a nice, normal guy."
Why do women say this if they don't mean it??
My experience has been that while this may really be what they want to marry and have as a father to their children, what they want as a boyfriend and lover is very different.
Can someone please explain???
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First of all, it is not very nice to combine all women together and assume that we all think the same way. You would need to ask every single woman what it is that they want out of life in order to get your question answered. Some people do know what they want and some people do not.
I am at a point in my life where I know that I don't want to date anymore and I am more interested in learning more about myself, what my wants and needs are. So I would be a woman that knows what she wants. I think that you as a person need to evaluate what it is that you want. I think that if you are running into women that do not know what they want at this time, or they do and are telling you, then one needs to listen to what they are saying. I think that moving on would be best practical for your needs. Sometimes the finger that one is pointing at others will end up being pointed right back themselves.
Tuesday, September 25, 2007
Monday, September 24, 2007
Are women "marketable" after age 30?
My roommate and I had this discussion the other night and I would like opinions on this. He says that after 30 women are no longer "marketable'? I tend to disagree. As I venture farther into my 30's I am finding out who I am as a person. I know what I want and where I want to go. A girl or woman in her 20's is still learning that. There is all the "drama" associated with the 20's genre. Not saying that women in their 30's don't have drama but it isn't as prominent in most cases. Please any feed back would be great.
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Your roommate is an idiot and if he is going to go by media's standard then he is wrong. Women in their 30s are HOT! They know what they want and know who they are. As a woman myself who is in her 30s, I must say that I know myself better and I know what I want, along with knowing what I will or will not stand for. I don't sweat the small stuff like I did in my 20s and I am more prone to think before I do things and not having any regrettable experiences. As for dealing with men, I do not have any trouble getting dates, and I actually get more dates compared to my 20s. I run into men that are just too silly for me, and I easily let them go, and I know that someone better will come along for me. In my 20s I was more likely to try to hold onto the person even though they were not good for me.
So I believe that women will continue to be "marketable" any age that they are. Although the marketable thing makes me think that he is thinking about hookers which is an entirely different topic altogether.
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Your roommate is an idiot and if he is going to go by media's standard then he is wrong. Women in their 30s are HOT! They know what they want and know who they are. As a woman myself who is in her 30s, I must say that I know myself better and I know what I want, along with knowing what I will or will not stand for. I don't sweat the small stuff like I did in my 20s and I am more prone to think before I do things and not having any regrettable experiences. As for dealing with men, I do not have any trouble getting dates, and I actually get more dates compared to my 20s. I run into men that are just too silly for me, and I easily let them go, and I know that someone better will come along for me. In my 20s I was more likely to try to hold onto the person even though they were not good for me.
So I believe that women will continue to be "marketable" any age that they are. Although the marketable thing makes me think that he is thinking about hookers which is an entirely different topic altogether.
Guy Disappearing
Okay, I just don't get it....
You get to know someone in email and on the phone. Both are excited about the first date. You go on the first date. Great things happen. Wonderful things are said. Then..........NOTHING>ZIP>NADA. The guy disappears. Won't respond to an email saying hi, I had a great time, can't wait to do it again. In fact, deletes it unread. Even though, on the date, he tells you that you're terrific, can't wait to see you again, etc.. Now if this was an isolated incident, OKAY. No sweat. However...............it happens nearly ALL the time.
Gentlemen - Please for the sake of all us girls out there..... Don't ever say anything you dont mean or won't back up with actions. Be straight up. We can take it, trust me. And it can be done in a nice way too. Say what you mean or be non-committal. Anything other than feed us what you think we want to hear, then drop us like a hot potato.
Ladies, anyone else have this experience?
Guys, so what gives?? Are all of you just slimey rats?
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I have experienced this type of stuff before and I have learned that all men are different. That man that you have right there is dripping with drama and you need to drop his ass ASAP! He is a player and is full of games and does not know what he wants. I think that you should look at all of the things that he is doing and make a decision on whether you really want to deal with him or not? He is trying to see what you will do and if you will chase him around and give him all of that attention. So I would say don't even bother and try to meet a man that will be truly interested in you.
You get to know someone in email and on the phone. Both are excited about the first date. You go on the first date. Great things happen. Wonderful things are said. Then..........NOTHING>ZIP>NADA. The guy disappears. Won't respond to an email saying hi, I had a great time, can't wait to do it again. In fact, deletes it unread. Even though, on the date, he tells you that you're terrific, can't wait to see you again, etc.. Now if this was an isolated incident, OKAY. No sweat. However...............it happens nearly ALL the time.
Gentlemen - Please for the sake of all us girls out there..... Don't ever say anything you dont mean or won't back up with actions. Be straight up. We can take it, trust me. And it can be done in a nice way too. Say what you mean or be non-committal. Anything other than feed us what you think we want to hear, then drop us like a hot potato.
Ladies, anyone else have this experience?
Guys, so what gives?? Are all of you just slimey rats?
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I have experienced this type of stuff before and I have learned that all men are different. That man that you have right there is dripping with drama and you need to drop his ass ASAP! He is a player and is full of games and does not know what he wants. I think that you should look at all of the things that he is doing and make a decision on whether you really want to deal with him or not? He is trying to see what you will do and if you will chase him around and give him all of that attention. So I would say don't even bother and try to meet a man that will be truly interested in you.
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